Did I stumble into Dear Abby or is this still Blackberryforums.com?

I am trying to bite my tongue to keep from extending this totally off topic line of conversation. We should stick to the original topic: OP believes her BB is infected with spyware and wants to know how to remove it and protect it from being reinstalled. The fact that it may have been her husband who did this to her or what their relation truly is do not impact the advice the OP should be receiving on blackberryforums.com.