As far as i know, the only way to have "real-time" updates to outlook is through a BES or desktop redirector. there are two types, corporate BES and hosted BES. there's a whole thread dedicated to hosted BES. i'm not too familiar with desktop redirector so you'll have to do a search on that one. as far as the hosted BES, go here..... The Hosted BES FAQ - Cheap BES/MDS - Wireless Outlook sync!
and you can go here for many of your other bb questions, or you might find things here that spark questions you didn't even know you had....hehe BIG FAQ! Software, Upgrade, Ringtones, Themes, Internet, IM, Modem, Tips+Tricks, Etc