I'm sorry I didn't make it easy enough to understand. Your sony should have come with software to allow you to sync items from your phone to your computer and vise versa. You should be able to select which items they are, as in just contacts, or just email, or calendar, tasks, memo's and a combination of. If you have seperated contacts you should be able to make a new contacts list in outlook and sync your sony to that. So now your choosen contacts are on your computer also, within outlook. Now you use Desktop Manager to tell it to look at your email client (Outlook) when it sync's. Within Desktop Manager you have the same abilities as in you can choose which portions of outlook to sync, i.e. contacts, emails, calendars...etc.
I didn't quite understand the second part of your request of "when i try to set up email on outlook with bb, it won't connect to internet at all" Outlook is not an application on your bb.