Welcome to BBF.
What you are trying to do with the WiFi connection, can't be done. The laptop would need to be a wireless hotspot for the BB to be able to use it, not just WiFi connection capability.
And you need a BB data plan to get the service books to allow you to access the RIM services such as email, BB Browser, BBM, Facebook, etc.
Please edit your profile to use the specific BB model number, not the nickname. There are several versions of the "Flip", so the specific model number is very helpful in trouble shooting.