| | Re: bbm contacts
If your other BlackBerry has a data plan, you can scroll to the bottom of your BBM list and it should list all the pending requests you have made. If your "other" BB was found, or bought, then no, you can't.
If you have your BBM set to save "on any changes", then your list should be up to date. As for finding out who you may have erased, without multiple backups, I don't see how.
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