to clarify.....

when
1) I delete a message from my handheld it does delete on my outlook but not vise-versa and
3) when I read a message it does not reflect on my outlook or vise-versa.
Also, when I hit the "RECONCILE NOW", the signal arrows are shown but nothing happens. My configuration on my handheld were all OK, the "delete on is enabled, the wireless reconcile is ON and conflict is Mail wins". On the BES side, all properties were configured properly.
I hope that anyone of you can help me with this problem.

Thanks