If you install the CD that came with the BB it would have answered some of the questions tyou are asking. Syncing is the easiest of tasks its what happens when you connect the BB to the usb cable and the cable to the computer. Run the destop manager and it will sync everything for you. Thats the basic steps explained in the owners manula that was in the box when you open the BB.
The guys arent on the high horse as you call it that was just such a basic question that could have been answered with out ever even coming to the forums. All the info is in the manual that comes standard with every BB.