I am glad you realize that this forum is not associated with RIM. I do believe it says so on the home page, but anyway.
Wow - blaming the moderators on a private forum for your difficulties in using a commercially available product is really poor form.
Conclusion 3: You are blaming the wrong people.
Why are you blaming the moderators, who, contrary to popular belief do not know everything - especially about your unusual setup - and do not work for RIM and are all volunteers here.
You came onto a forum, and blamed everyone else for YOUR PROBLEMS.
You have an issue with Research in Motion. Take it up with them.