tracy ... it's the library folder in your home not your HD .... And as for step 10 .... My entouage wouldn't give me that option either so i went in and deleted with a vengeance ..... here is what was deleted

In home/library/preferences.......I deleted:
---com.microsoft.entourage.syncservices12.plist
--- com.microsoft.Entourage.plist
Then in home/library/preferences/Microsoft..... I deleted
---Entourage Preferences
---com.microsoft.Office.prefs.plist
Then in home/library/preferences/Microsoft/Office 2008 ... I deleted
----Entourage Preferences
---OfficeSync Prefs
---Microsoft Office 2008 Settings.plist

See i told you I went a bit crazy ... LOL
Then i rebooted ..... When i opened up Entourage the sync options were there

This sync method though is pretty much a joke ... I think pocket mac and entourage worked just fine for me ... i hope they pull it together and get this problem resolved