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Switch to vibrate: There is no need to go to Profiles > Advanced. You should be able to simply go to Profiles > Vibrate. If you enable "Homescreen Shortcuts" you can simply tap F for Profiles > V to vibrate and the enter key to enable. Home Screen Shortcuts - BlackBerryFAQ
or, Set your side convenience key to Profiles (Options > Screen/Keyboard > Left or Right side convenience key).
1. Messages > Alt + P
2. see above
3. Set "Wireless Reconcile = OFF" at Messages > Options > Email Reconciation.
4. Options > Status (set homescreen shortcuts and only tap "O" > Status.
5. Enable homescreen shortcuts, tap "K"
6. Phone Dial screen > Menu > View Speed Dial List > Select the letter > Menu > New Speed Dial > select Address Book entry > select number.