Okay, I got the calender fixed by removing from domain admin group, stopping all the blackberry services, i changed the account that they started under to the besadmin account. Logged off, logged on as besadmin and started all of the services. Then tested and it fixed the two-way syncing of the calender. I thought everything was good but now the user can't send email from the blackberry. Everything else is working and the email was working before I did my fix for the Calender. I am wondering if this BPS Software is worth the trouble Any help would be great

Okay, I am confused. I still had the account in the administrators group, not the domain admin group. I took it out of that group. After rebooting I saw that half the services weren't starting. I tried logging into the besadmin account and start the manager software and I was getting errors and it asking for account information for the database to run. I hit cancel and tried starting the blackberry services and they wouldn't start. I had to put the account back into the administrator group to get the software to run again. What am I doing wrong!!!

You really need to read through the installation documentation for BPS. It explains the permission requirements ... KB02276 - Assigning permissions for a BlackBerry Enterprise Server service account - Port3101.org : Your BES Connection

no offense but I have gone over these permissions ad nauseam. The email was working fine until i fixed the calender. Do i need to remove and reapply the persmissions because they all look correct. Here is one of the errors.

MAPIMailbox::Send(ppMAPIMessage) - SubmitMessage (0x80070005) failed

The besadmin must be be a member of the local administrators group. However, if you install on a Domain Controller (which is the case because this is a Small Business Server), there is no local administrator group.
In this case the besadmin user must be a member of the domain wide administrators group, but not member of the domain administrators group

again add the besdadmin user to the administrators group. Then fix the other problems.

in other words; fix the permissions.

No offense, but your ad nauseam is apparently not good enough. Maybe you should just create a new account to use as besadmin ... KB04293 - How to switch BlackBerry Enterprise Server service accounts - Port3101.org : Your BES Connection

I did add it to the administrators group, not the domain admin group and the email isn't working (but the services are loading)

Then, do a reinstall of the BPS software as the besadmin user, after that, apply any service-packs/updates if neccesary. That should not hurt. I dont think you will loose any vital information.
When I switched from a Windows 2000 Server to 2003 I also had similar problem (on 2000, BES/BPS can be run as administrator). Reinstalling helped, and, all User information was kept.

cool, i do appreciate the help. I want this software to work and it has been a little frustrating. The client is getting annoyed because it was my idea to go with this software.

Well, I setup a new service account, did exactly as the instructions said, and this is what shows up in the event log

first message in event log MAPIMailbox::Send(ppMAPIMessage) - SubmitMessage (0x80070005) failed

second message in event log Send() failed: ERR_SUBMIT_MAIL, Tag=8386

email still not sending but everything else is working

have you tried to:
verify the BESAdmin mapi profile, and then
(logged in as the besadmin account )
go to the /programs/Research in motion/Blackberry Enterprise Server/utility
execute: iemstest.exe
choose the user in question from the list.

what is the output ?

could this:
Microsoft patch - Blackberry workaround - Discussed in BES Admins & Professionals forum - PinStack.com - Smartphone Professionals Alliance.
be a reason ?

To actually check, if the besadmin user has send as and receive as permissions:
In active Directory and users, under View, check Advanced functions,
now, open the properties of a user, under Security, advanced, you can see all permissions to the user account.
There is also a button like "reset to default settings"

From here you also can check the effective permissions to a users mailbox. Choose the besadmin account to verify and check if the "receive as" and "send as" permissions are checked for a user account.

I ran the test, a dos box opened i saw something running, and then it closed, don't know what happened or where the output is

don't know if i did it right, it had two default profiles to pick from
Blackberry Manager
Blackberry Server

I picked blackberry manager

Then I selected the user that can't send mail

you have to open a dos/cmd box before you run the command.
then execute the command from the dos box.

Okay, here is something weird. When I go to the advanced under security policy under the domain, not only do i see besadmin2(the new service account) listed to send as which is correct, I see an account unknown also listed to send as
Account Unknown(S-1-5-21-1854294705-1306172298-2619958573-1156)

Is that causing the problem?

I dont think so.
As long as your besadmin2 has send and receive as permissions that should be ok.

what group belongs your user to ?
He should not be a member of any special group, only belong to the users group.
not: administrators, domain admins, printer operators ...

Well, a few posts back it was said that it was okay to be a part of the administrators group

It is in
Domain user
administrators
remote desktop users

remove the user from the administrators group.
the besadmin user must be member of the administrator group,
however, not the user which owns the blackberry.

okay, remove the user with the blackberry from certain groups, which groups should i let the user be a part of? this is a sbs 2003 installation

domain users and remote desktop this is ok.
the groups which a user is member of when you create him through the wizard + remote desktop should be ok.

and:
try the iemstest.exe utility.