Alright, so I kind of have a very strange problem, so please bare with me.
So I forgot my password, and I had enough backups. And my screen was cracked, so I was operating through the Blackberry Desktop Software. I entered the wrong password 5 times, and the phone disconnected saying there was a violation, and it also told me the 5th time was the final attempt before my phone got wiped. Now I assume that's what happened. But I'm trying to get it to reconnect to the blackberry desktop software, but it's not detecting any phone. Please help, I am flipping out.

Are you using a corporate phone? the normal wipe force is after 10 tries.