here is what I’ve done and tested all day long:
1) have removed the business email account (from my company) and setup an new one on my bberry setup page (the g-mail one)
all this was done online - via O2 setup page as O2 is my provider here in UK.
2) went to my Gmail account and added the business email account as an alternative email (to receive emails from my business account onto my Gmail account) and also asked Gmail to leave a copy on the business server (in this way I will have them sent to my Outlook 2007 too)
3) After these, I have the business emails being sent to Gmail and from Gmail to my bberry and also my business email sent to my outlook 2007 account.
all perfect, no more spam...the only problem is that when I reply to any email it appears as being sent from my Gmail account and not from my business account and is nothing to do about that.
spending all day checking the settings, receiving and sending emails I have realized that I will really miss hitting the delete key as Jsanders said....lol..now i am back to my settings as they are better, faster and I can live with that little spam I receive everyday.
thank you all for your help, much appreciated.