Guys the bottom line is that syncing with Google Calendar sucks.
It looks like GCalSync is not dead, and has a new project site here: gadjet - Google Code
they are up to Beta 1.3.0
UPDATE: I take that back, development has stopped "until further notice"... that means it's dead.
Also here are a ton more alternatives from the site's links:
There are only 1 or 2 in there that run *on* your BB and sync with a remote calendar.
I've also personally used the secretary one from *******, but the site is so unbelievably defunct, I don't know if it's even a real company... they do seem to keep their main downloads on Handango and not maintain a real site :( http://www.*******.com/