i did everything i think i should do...
deleted the Vendor.xml EVERYWHERE i found it (just one place, if there is another place please send me the exact adress...)
installed everything like it should
installed the desktop thingy without the automatic updates...
as you can see this is what i did, the left screen on the bottom is the Virtualstore, as you can see no vendor.... PLEASE help me... i did the whole process all over again.. and im kind of freakin out right now..