OK, I know that I need to be in mass storage mode or something, but the first time i had hooked my bb up to my laptop, it asked if I wanted to be in that mode and I clicked NO, Do not show this message again. I clicked that on accident and now I have absolutely no idea how to get my music onto my phone... I was considering trying to just save it to my memory card and then when I put that in the phone it will be there? Thoughts please??

Go to options, media card, and set mass storage mode support to "on"

i've copied and pasted music to bb card, but after disconnect, music is not on bb???

No?

Remove your BB from the USB. Open the Media icon.

If still not, remove the battery and replace, reboot and look.