For use with blackberry messenger that will allow you to read the message without the D switching to an R? Or possibly a program that will allow you to just be unreachable to just certain people? Reason I ask is because when I am at work, I would like to leave personal BBM's for after work. I know I can just ignore them but then the light flashes and the icon is on the screen until you read it. Anyone come accross any 3prd party apps that might help?

There is nothing, nor is there likely to be.

This piece of software was designed with business users in mind, not social chatters. Never mind what folks use it for now, the idea behind it was group collaboration and quick business communication. With that in mind, a better choice would be one of the countless IM apps for social chatting.