I agree. A Blackberry would not be for you (though I think trying wireless email would get anyone hooked
and there's nothing better than a Blackberry for that!)
Check ou the Audiovox 5600. It's a regular cell phone (though not a clamshell design) that runs Windows Mobile. Small and durable with lots of capabilities, but expensive. Treos are too big and the keypads are horrid. Just my opinion, though...Happy shopping!