Don't know about the today theme problem. I don't use it. Did a little searching and didn't find anything, but that doesn't mean it isn't a bug, as you describe. But how are you getting email on the blackberry without a blackberry data plan, anyway?
About that network message to you personal email account, see this: http://www.blackberryforums.com/gene...tml#post752686
. Is that what you did when you installed desktop manager? If so, follow penquin's directions.