66 views and no replies.....what.....j/k, lol.
I got it, finally..........!
I did however revert back to 4.1.x.xx until I received a firm answer from BB Spell [new beta version, but working great]. I give them big props, they were prompt and on the ball in getting this answered and resolved!
So far all seems good with 4.2.1.96, no lag, all the programs work now, modem yes and I'm lovin' being able to listen to the .wav vm's rather than having to dial into vm! I also like the red PIN msg highlight, I don't get a ton but my wife and I use it like IM so it makes it easier to know what I can quickly delete rather than having to go into the PIN folder.
Question though, Why can't you listen to the .wav vm attachments through a BT headset? It appears, so far, handset or speaker only

, and the volume needs to be tweaked because even at full volume on the players slider it's still too low.
Oh, and I still wish they'd put a arrow by the mail icon after you reply to an email!!!!! RIM, you reading?????