does anyone know what settings or plugin to use to make mac mail load a bb email account?

You can't.
Blackberry.net email can only be viewed/read on the BlackBerry device.

hmmm... thats somewhat annoying...

No, not really.
You shouldn't be using the blackberry.net email account anyway.
Just delete it and use a free Yahoo or GMail account instead.

You can't control spam on the blackberry.net email address so once you start getting it (which you will) there's no way to stop it.

i see.. i just like the idea of being push mail so it communicates much quicker... i guess ill just use it for personal communication then and have all my other junk go to my .mac

Yahoo and GMail both offer instantaneous push mail on the BlackBerry, for free.
There's no advantage to using the blackberry.net account at all.
Seriously... get rid of it.

good to know... perhaps ill switch to gmail or something then...

A wise decision.

thanks for the help!