Can i install the tmoblie software first copy the vendor.xml uninstall the tmoblie and install the nextel one and change the vendor.xml to the tmoblie one?
The only reason i want to do this is so it will setup the internet connection for me so it knows where to go.
No. The 7100i uses the iDen network and is not compatible with the T-Mobile network. It is not a software/unlock/whatever issue. It simply can not be done. The 7100i can only be used on iDen network like Nextel. It can not be used on T-Mobile.
No.
Forget the words SIM and unlock for now.
You can not use the 7100i on ANY OTHER NETWORK besides Nextel (and their associates), which does not include T-Mobile.
The phone can not be used on T-Mobile.
You can not modify the phone to use it on T-Mobile.