guys,
it is my fault. I was not pairing correctly. The HS850 requires you to make sure the mouth piece is flipped closed, then you have to press the phone button until the light is steady, now here it the part where i screwed up... you have to flip it open while the light is still on. I was not doing this. This is the only way the device enters pairing mode.
Sorry if I wasted any of your time. My only consolation is that there has to be someone else as dumb as me out there that might benefit from this post.
Later