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Originally Posted by turn_key
Here's my 2 cents and from a guy's point of view...
Rarely does a guy not know his feelings or where his heart is. There is no confusion or doubt. We're either on or off. If he was a man and wanted to be with her or take responsibility for the child he would do so without being asked.
Fathering a child and being a father are two different things; either men have the ability to be good fathers or they don't, and he doesn't for sure. That being said, the guy is 100% a**hole and immature. The whole drunken phone calls and sneaking around with someone else is about as high school as you can get.
Your friend shouldn't waste one more second thinking about this clown and concentrate on raising the baby. His only contact should be a monthly check for child support.
I've also had many a female friend that went through the same type of situation and it's always the same story; I love him, he says he loves me, I know I can change him, he's really a good guy, I made him do this, it's my fault he hits me, he's not sure, he's not ready, the other woman seduced him, if I was better in bed he wouldn't have cheated on me.... it's all Grade A bullsh*t. 99% of guys do what they want to do and there is little thought involved.
Anytime a guy says he's not sure or scared, he's lying.
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I'm going to quote you on this to my friend, because this will probably give her the jolt she needs.
thanks again you guys, all this input's been helping us a lot.
